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“Go sit in time-out”

Yep, I got put in time-out last night by Big T.

Mr. T had made some sort of smart-alecky comment to me last night and I threw a foam block at him. Big T saw me throwing toys (a big No-No) so I had to sit in time-out on the steps. I kept talking to Mr. T while in time-out , and I was reminded “No talking, you’re in time-out”

Finally (3-ish minutes later) he let me go, and proceeded to ask me “do you know why you were in time-out?”

And I said (sheepishly) “because I threw the block”

And Big T responded “Well…you can open my treat now”

How does this even work? I get time-out, and he gets a treat?

hahahaha. It was cute. and an eerie reenactment of how things go around here.

My only regret is that I did not get enough time in time-out. The rule of thumb is 1 minute for every year.  As a thirty year-old, I am entitled to 30 minutes of peace and quiet by myself. Uh, I meant to say…I deserve to be punished for 30 minutes in time-out.

I only got 3 minutes. Oh well.

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“We need to talk about my presents”

Christmas is not about the presents. At least this is what we are trying to teach Big T. I reminded him constantly that “we are celebrating Jesus’ birthday”. However, he was still captivated by the prospect of all the gifts. I admit, I enjoy opening presents too.

so… a few highlights of Christmas Season

1) Big T and Little T made out like Bandits! They both LOVED opening their presents. Of course, Little T was most interested in Big T’s new toys. That and the wrapping/boxes. He hardly even looked at any of the stuff bought specifically for him.

After they opened all their presents:

The aftermath

2) Mr T’s gifts to me were AWESOME!!! Dell inspiron mini (more blogging, yay!); 8GB ipod touch. Gifts from other family members were not so awesome. I kind of felt like an afterthought actually. Happens pretty much every year. Whatever. My Mr. T is a sweetie and more than makes up for all that. One thing though, Mr T is AWFUL at wrapping gifts. A blind person would do a better job. Seriously. Check it:

Mr T's wrapping skills


We made delicious coconut cupcakes

cocnut cupcakes


and I got an uuuuuuuugly shrek-head cookie jar at my lab gift exchange. Big T neeeded to have a pic of Shrek-head and Lightning McQueen:

 Shrek head

all in all, it was a good time 🙂

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“I want my oatmeal!”

Big T was being a little bratty this morning. (Is it bad to call your own kid bratty? He really was being a pill). Yelling, demanding things, throwing tantrums. I offered him time-out and he said no, thank you. And that seemed to curb his misbehaviour. It was just one of those mornings.

Staying home today. Little T still has a fever and I suspect he will be staying home tomorrow.

Ever have one of those days where you are just TIRED? Well, I just had 3 of them in a row. I am not sure why I feel so worn out. Physically AND mentally. I literally cannot keep my eyes open beyond 10pm. And now, I am completely stressing out because my “I won’t be at work today, my child is sick” email to The Boss was unanswered. Does she think I am slacking off? Is she pissed I am missing a day of work? Usually I get a response along the lines of “I hope he is better soon, take as much time as you need.” This time nothing. ugh. This plus debating whether Little T actually has to go to the hospital has me mentally stressed. Today I am a good mother, but it seems I am a bad employee. That’s how it goes. 🙁

Feel better little one!

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“Are you thinking what I’m thinking?”

He was thinking about Cars (the animated movie) and I was thinking about work. So no, Big T, I am not thinking what you’re thinking.

I got the dreaded daycare call today. “Your son has a fever of 101 and you need to pick him up. ” It was Little T. I rushed out of lab without finishing my transformations. I placed them on ice. In hindsight, maybe I should have just finished up before going to get the boys. But I did not want to seem like an irresponsible mother. Soooo, now I am back in lab (it’s almost 8pm) finishing up. Since the child-care place has that 24 hour fever-free rule, I will be home for at least one more day.    🙁     🙂   ?????   Not sure if I should be sad or happy. Sad that Little T is not feeling well (of course), but happy that I get to stay with him all day since I missed him all last week, but sad that I will miss a day of work, but happy that I might accomplish some things while he naps tomorrow…

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“I wasn’t talking to you mommy, I was talking to daddy”

This particular statement coming from Big T’s mouth made my blood pressure rise. I get that daddy is his hero. I get that. But I will not tolerate rudeness from my own kid. Unfortunately, I was driving so the best I could do was give him a super stern talking to. I seem to be using The Mommy Voice a lot nowadays.

We decided that Mr T would stay home instead of coming with me to the International Conference. It was just too complicated to have him come with me. Plus, Little T (and Mr. T) appear to be coming down with something. Little T was not 100% his usual cheery self today, and he has been sleeping a lot. Plus he had a low grade fever this morning. Mr. T also has a low grade fever. Come to think of it, I may be getting something too…I have a massive cold. Should be fun flying while stuffy. ugh.

I never did get around to getting a flu shot this year.

To prepare the family for my absence, I decided to make a huge batch of one of Big T’s favorite dishes – Jollof Brown Rice. It’s delicious and it freezes well. Mr. T likes it too. If nothing else, they can eat this all day 😉

Recipe for Jollof Brown Rice:

Saute 1 medium onion (chopped) in 3/4 cup canola oil. Med. high heat, about 3 minutes until onions are tender. Add 1 15oz can of tomato sauce, and 1/2 6oz can tomato paste. Mix well until smooth. Add 1/2 teaspoon italian seasoning mix (I know, right. it works), 1 tablespoon cayenne pepper, 1.5 teaspoons salt, and 1/4 tablespoon black pepper. It  can be more or less spicy to taste. We like it on the spicier side. Mix well, and bring to a simmer on medium heat for a couple of minutes. Then, stir in 4 cups Uncle Bens Brown Rice. Add 4 cups chicken broth and 2 cups water. Stir. Bring down heat to medium-low and simmer for 45 minutes to 1 hour until all the liquid has evaporated. Stir well to mix. serve with chicken or beef and a side of veggies. ENJOY.

I am looking forward to my conference. I cannot lie. Sun, Beach, Science…

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“Is it Christmas?”

Big T has been asking for a particular toy race car, and we told him that maybe we would give it to him as a Christmas present. Since then, he has been asking several times a day “Is it Christmas?” Not yet, honey. Guess this is a good opportunity to teach him that Christmas is not all about the gifts.

My weekends are generally spent catching up on life – laundry, grocery shopping, meal planning, and of course, some social events have to be thrown in. This weekend is particularly stressful, since I will be leaving for International Conference on Tuesday and I won’t be back till Saturday. This means everything has to be in order for whoever is taking care of the kids. I am going to miss my babies, but I recognize that this is an opportunity  I cannot pass up – the location is AMAZING (it is at a swanky resort), I will be giving a talk (great chance to impress people in the field), and hopefully I will get a chance to meet leaders in the field (who knows, this might lead to future job opportunities).

Anyone with ideas on how to help the little ones deal with my absence will be greatly appreciated. Actually, maybe OUR absence, since we are trying to get Mr T as a guest at the International Conference. Like I said – SWANKY RESORT!!

Trying not to stress out over everything I still need to accomplish before leaving.…

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“Keep an eye on me!”

Said Big T as he climbed all over the furniture in the doctor’s waiting room. EW.

He had to go in today to have his tummy checked out – he’d been complaining of pain on and off. Anyway, long story short, Doc thinks he might be lactose intolerant. This plus peanut allergy (we think). Awesome, no?

The office managers processing my paperwork at the doctor’s office were beyond RUDE. They passed my paperwork back and forth – “you do it”, “no, you do it I’m busy” – while I stood right in front of them waiting. This continued until a supervisor intervened and said “somebody needs to attend to this lady right now!” I could not believe it. I would have said they treated me this way cause I’m black but one of the ladies was black too. Unbelievable lack of customer service. I should file a complaint.

All the while, Little T was being extremely quiet in his carseat, watching his brother’s antics and probably wishing he could be that free too. Big T kept touching the clinic exit door, and finally, I said (in my meanest, I mean business, don’t try me Mommy Voice) “do not touch that door

To which he replied “Can I touch it?”

Me: “No”

Big T: “Can I push it?”

Me: “No”

Big T: “Can I pull it?”

Me: “No, and stop asking about the door!”



“Turn your voice down”


I am not proud of this particular parenting habit, but tonight it was totally justified. Big T (my pre-schooler) ran away from me in the parking lot of their school. In a parking lot. In the dark. And it was raining too. My frantic yelling made him cry. And then he told me to turn my voice down.

At dinner, Big T picked all the peas and carrots out of his food and put them on Little T’s tray. He tried to do it on the sly but I caught him. I think Little T ate them. At least somebody ate veggies tonight.

It has been a whiny evening. I can’t wait for bedtime.

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